What the world needs now...

One of the greatest myths in leadership
is that women can’t be both powerful and feminine.
Actually, we can. More importantly, we must.
— Allison Conte
 
 For 50 years, women adapted to the workplace by using mostly Masculine leadership qualities. 

For 50 years, women adapted to the workplace by using mostly Masculine leadership qualities. 

Society and organizational life have long been dominated by the Masculine Principle – the get-it-done energy that builds cities and puts satellites into space, and the structures that keep trains running on time. 

But with the world suffering from "results" that nobody wants – war, climate change, environmental destruction, inequality, etc. – it's clear that we desperately need a rebalancing. To create a world that works for everyone, we must bring the Masculine Principle into balance with the Feminine Principle. 

The good news is that this is already beginning to happen in some ways. The emerging post-modern paradigm is more caring, inclusive and connected – More Feminine – than the previous traditional and modern paradigms. 

And, we are not there yet. As the entrenched Masculine-dominant paradigm tries to hold on to power, we are seeing a major backlash happening now.  

Many organizations have been working for years -- even decades! -- to correct this imbalance, but they have failed to produce breakthrough results. That's because they don't recognize an important truth: External circumstances are a reflection of internal consciousness and culture. 

 Artist: Shiloh Sophia

Women are called to lead the way.

There is so much work to be done. Women are called to light the way through the darkness of unconscious greed, separation, hate and violence. We are needed to midwife the birth of a new world that honors All of Life. 

Here's the secret: If we hope to create balance in our world, we must embody that balance within ourselves. To bring more Feminine wisdom and power to our organizations, we must be the change we want to see.

It is an inside job.

To amplify the power of the Feminine in our organizations, our systems, and the world, we must first claim it for ourselves. To do this well, we need to learn:

  • to lead from our natural Feminine essence,
  • to integrate Feminine leadership qualities with the Masculine styles we already know how to use, and
  • to use our power in healthy ways.
Courage is a heart word.
In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant:
’To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.’
— Brené Brown

The costs of over-Masculinizing

If you're like most women leaders, you achieved success by driving hard, pushing through, taking charge, solving problems and making tough decisions. These Masculine qualities are critically important leadership competencies, so of course you wouldn't want to throw them out. Masculine leadership qualities are necessary – but not sufficient – for what is needed now. 

Being out of balance with too much Masculine is costly for any leader – and this is especially true for women.

If you don’t bring your Feminine side to work,
your team will miss out on some of your best gifts,
and your organization may not be able
to change in the ways it needs to change.
— Allison Conte

Not bringing your full self to work leads to unhappiness and lack of fulfillment, which kills inspiration, engagement, commitment and job performance. And the overuse of Masculine energy can lead to an overdose, wreaking havoc with your relationships and health. Many women learn this the hard way when they suffer from health challenges like adrenal fatigue or stress-related illness, and must take time off from work. 

 

Signs that you are out of balance

» questioning the meaning -- and cost -- of "success"

» depleted, exhausted burned out

» not taking exquisite care of yourself

» stress-related health problems 

» lost radiance, dulled appearance

» lacking passion and joy... just going through the motions

» disconnected from heart-intelligence and intuition

 

There is a better way

These consequences occur because, for most women, Masculine energy is not the native source of our power. It's time for us to plug into a more sustainable source – the Feminine

Envision working with a more balanced operating system, one that fully optimizes both your Masculine skills and your Feminine essence. Instead of feeling drained, you could show up to work every day:

» feeling nourished from an inexhaustible source of life-energy

» relaxed, knowing that you are held and supported

» glowing with radiance

» tuned in to your intuition and heart intelligence

» fired up about your vision for the future

» plugged in to an ever-flowing source of creativity

» joyfully connected with your people & women peers

You can increase your influence and impact as a leader
– and expand your joy, creativity, and well-being –
by tapping into your Feminine essence.
— Allison Conte
  Artist: Shiloh Sophia

Integrating Masculine and Feminine

The most successful leaders of the future
will integrate the best qualities of both
the Masculine and Feminine Principles.
— Allison Conte

The Masculine and Feminine principles are not defined by gender; they are universal, interdependent energies, qualities, capacities, and essences found in all people, systems and cultures.

With exceptions, women tend to have more Feminine essence and men, with exceptions, tend to have more Masculine essence. Most (but not all) organizations lean heavily toward the Masculine Principle.

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Who is Sophia?

Sophia resides in all of us as the divine spark,
the creative source of all Life.
— Allison Conte
  Artist: Shiloh Sophia

Artist: Shiloh Sophia

Sophia is analogous to the human soul. As the Feminine aspect of the Divine, she is also known as Shakti (Hinduism), Guanyin (Buddhism) and Shekinah (Kabbalah). Her name means wisdom in Greek and she has roots in Gnosticism, Christianity and Judaism. 

Carl Jung recognized the myth of Sophia as being important to the individual's search for wholeness, and to the cultural and spiritual potential of humanity.

In leadership, Sophia reminds us of the importance of doing the inner work of growing in maturity by integrating our own Masculine and Feminine qualities. She helps us to realize that we are not alone; we are held in loving embrace by the Divine. We are irrevocably connected with each other, and with the Earth.

Sophia's Team

Allison Conte, MS, Program Director

 Allison Conte

Allison Conte

Allison developed the leadership model and curriculum for Sophia Leadership, and serves as its program director. Her mission is to help humanity balance the Masculine/Feminine energies, engage spirituality, honor the Earth, and use power wisely.   

In addition to teaching Sophia Leadership, Allison is an author, speaker, executive coach, facilitator and consultant. 

Allison holds a masters in Positive Organization Development from Case Western Weatherhead School of Management, and a BS in Journalism from the University of Colorado. She has served as a master executive coach in Case Western Reserve University's Weatherhead School of Management Executive Education Program. She also has taught on the faculties of the ICF-certified Gestalt Coaching Program, the Polarity Mastery Program, and at The Integral Center. She is trained in Gestalt, developmental psychology, integral theory, and polarity thinking. She is a certified Spiritual Intelligence Coach.

Although she considers her spiritual path to be faith-neutral (honoring all wisdom traditions), Allison is personally devoted to the Sacred Feminine and was ordained as a priestess in the Sophia Lineage in 2013. Since 2000, has studied intensively with a variety of spiritual teachers, energy-work masters, and mystical healers. Her mentors include Ken Wilber, Sophia Diaz, Trevor Hart, Lynda Caesara, and Jody England. After spending five years apprenticing in a shamanic shadow-work methodology, she is continuing her studies with an Apache elder. 

Allison’s paper, “Integral Feminine Leadership: Developing Women Leaders to Lead from Feminine Essence,” co-authored with Susan Cannon, serves as the basis for the Sophia Leadership Program. She is currently writing a chapter for the upcoming book, "The New Feminine Evolutionary," and developing a book project based on her work in feminine leadership.

Read what clients are saying about Allison.


Rima Bonario, Th.D. – Program Assistant

 Rima Bonario

Rima Bonario

Rima Bonario is an author, speaker, coach, and consultant. Her life’s work is facilitating potent processes and deep practices that support her clients in reconnecting to their inherent sacred wholeness.

As a co-founder of The Q Effect, she co-created a 21-day shadow-work program called the Q Process™ and The Art & Practice of Living with Nothing and No One Against You.

Dr. Bonario earned her doctorate in Transformational Psychology from Holos University Graduate Seminary, where she was awarded the Gold Medal Emerging Scientist Award from the International Society for the Study of Subtle Energy and Energy Medicine (ISSSEEM) for her research validating the effectiveness of The Q Process. Rima holds a Master’s degree in Strategic Communications and Leadership from Seton Hall University. She serves on the faculty of Unity Worldwide Ministry’s Spiritual Education and Enrichment program. She is a Spiritual Intelligence Coach, and has many years of experience as workshop leader, small group facilitator, and consultant.